THE LIVING WORD TRANSCRIPT

Program Air Date – 3-3-13

LESSON TITLE: “THE MAN’S PLACE.”

WELCOME

Jesus once said, “The harvest truly is plentiful!” Good morning! Thank you for joining us today for God’s Living Word. I hope everyone had a great week. And I hope you are ready to begin this new week with a day of service and offering to your God.

As always, it is our commitment through this program to proclaim the simple truth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ - which is confirmed for us in the Bible. I hope you all have your Bible’s handy and I hope you are ready to worship God together as we sing praises to His name and study from His wondrous word. Now let’s begin by talking to our Father in prayer!

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We want to begin our songs of praise this morning. Don’t you look forward to going and living with God eternally some day? I know we all do and therefore what a joy our first song of the morning will be! So, at this time won’t you join in with the congregation as we together sing, “To Canaan’s Land I’m On My Way.”

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DEVOTIONAL THOUGHTS

Well, spring will be here before we know it and the nicer weather we have been having lately, makes us look toward it all the more. I really love and enjoy such beautiful and glorious times of the year? All the colors revealed as things come back to life. They are truly wonderful to behold. In fact, some of my trees have already began to bud! Certainly, all of this makes us well aware of the beautiful creation this world is and what a blessing it is from God.

Isn’t it wonderful to finally be able to get out of our houses more and enjoy the nicer weather! It seems like we have been freezing for months, but now things have settle down a little bit and have become more pleasant. I hope we will enjoy such times in life and take advantage of them to do more for God and to accomplish more in His service.

As we think about the different seasons and how they affect us, I am reminded that the Bible talks a lot about such things as well. I can think of many parables, stories and illustrations in God’s Word which refer to the process of preparing, planting, growing and cultivating some type of harvest.

One of the most familiar verses in the Bible along these lines is found in 2 Corinthians 9:6, there it says, “but this I say: he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.” Earlier in the text, Paul had been boasting to the Macedonians and others about how generous the Corinthians were in giving and helping others. So he sent some others before his arrival to make sure they would be prepared to help again - so that his boasting would not be in vain. Thus, Paul reminds them that those who give sparingly will also get sparingly and those who give bountifully will also get bountifully.

Isn’t this the attitude that God wants us to have of being good givers! In the next verse, 7, of the same opening, Paul adds this, “so let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.” God truly loves a cheerful giver.

Another great verse which helps us to understand the importance of proper giving is found in Luke 6:38, there we read, “give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.” Have you figured it out yet? It’s better to give than to receive, because the more you give and do for God the more you will receive from Him.

Let’s all try to be better givers for the Lord’s sake. Whether it is giving of time, effort, or money; let’s give God our best, not the leftovers. Keeping in mind that we are blessed by God, according to what we give to Him and others!

This morning we will continue our series of study which is entitled, “What Have They Seen In Your House.” Our specific topic today will focus on, “The Man’s Place.” So, please continue with us this morning and after our next song together I will return with this study from God’s Word. The name of our next hymn, “To The Work!”

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LESSON

By Ray Sullins

Thank you so much for continuing with us this morning as we now go to God’s word and consider some of those things concerning the Christian home that will make us better Christians and individuals who are fulfilling the role in the home as God intends. But before we get into our specific lesson today that will cover the role of man in the home I would like to again remind you as we did last week that we now have and opportunity every Sunday morning for you to actually worship live with us over the internet. That has been made available and will be found on our website through a link. Our website is www.kechurchofchrist.com and if you go there and click on the link if you are there at 9:30 you will be able to join in live to our Bible class, if you join us at 10:30 you can join live on our entire service, and if you join us there at 5:00 on Sunday afternoon you will be able as well even today to join us for the evening worship. So we hope you will avail yourself of this opportunity but we know that we have many who watch the program who are shut ins or who are bound to home, or maybe a place that they live that they are unable to get out. Now instead of just enjoying the program and participating in this program and the worship that we engage in here you will actually be able to join us live for our worship services there. Again, every Sunday at such times and by the way we do also archives the lessons and such that are spoken on those days as well. So we hope you again will avail yourself of that opportunity again www.kechurchofchrist.com.

As we look now at the home we have learned already some interesting facts about what God has desired from the beginning. We know that God’s intent was always that one man would be joined to one woman and that union would be for life. That really as we learned last week that the only things that would break the union in relationship for the ability for one to remarry would be the fact that someone passes away therefore the covenant no longer exists. If one dies there no longer is a covenant or an agreement for it takes two to make a covenant. The other case that we would find would be that of sexual immorality on the part of one of the marriage individuals. Whether it is the husband or the wife the one who is the guilty party has no right to remarry but the one who is not the guilty party is free from that bondage because the covenant has been broken and therefore they have the right in that case to remarry. By the way only there in Matthew 19 and also in 1Corinthians 7 do you ever see in the New Testament these ideas dealt with in relationship to the ability that one has to remarry. We see some other places that talk about divorce, or the writing of divorcement, or the idea of separation for a time but only those two passages actually deal with the right that one has in God’s eyes to remarry after a divorce or in the sense of the concept that one is separated or put away by another.

Now that being the case then we want to begin specifically today looking at some of the roles of individuals in the Christian home. We know God designs the home so we also know that He designs those who are in the home such as the husband or Father, such as the wife or mother, such as parents, as well as children. We know that each of these roles are not only clearly defined in scripture but also we have clear commandment and example as to how we fulfill those functions. Why is that so important? Well, it is important because if I want the home that I am head of to function properly I must be a proper father, I must be a proper husband. And if I don’t do my part, if I don’t do what God wants me to do, guess what? That affects my wife being a proper wife or mother that affects my children being proper children and being obedient and showing honor. You see my reaction to the role God has designed for me can actually have an effect on all others. Either to be a positive effect if I am doing it right or a negative effect if I am doing that which is wrong. So it’s significant that God as He inspires the writers of the Bible that He continues to bring us back to the same thought.

You might remember with me there in Genesis 2:24 the verse that says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” I mentioned that verse again in the book of Genesis because we also mentioned it last week in Matthew 19 but I also now want you to go over with me in Ephesians 5. Guess what we read in verse 31 of Ephesians chapter 5? Well he makes the same quote in fact it says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Isn’t it beautiful how that God no doubt as the one who inspired the writers of the Bible is able to reveal His Will through Moses, through Jesus, through the apostle Paul by the same Spirit of God? Isn’t that a beautiful thought? Then to see that how once he reiterates these promises, and these commandments of God, and that plan that He sets forth then He discusses it. In Matthew 19 He discusses the situation of marriage, divorce and remarriage and then here in Ephesians 5 he discusses the role beginning with husbands and wives. He begins to do there in verse 21 by talking about a mutual submission that all Christians should have. I believe what He is talking about here is my willingness to be like Christ, to humble myself, to put others before myself whether it be my brother in Christ, whether it be my sister in Christ, whether is be my wife in the flesh. That I am willing to consider the needs of others, to think from the standpoints of others, and to care about what others need, they think, what hurts them, and what makes them happy. Therefore that I do what I do based on bringing them joy and making them better people. You see we need to have the ability not to think of self only, or be caught up, and to have the big head because we are something but to again think of the well being of others even over ourselves. We see that not only here but in the book of Philippians as well Paul deals with this to a great extent.

But now I want you to think with me what else he says here concerning the text. He mentions the role of wives, yes, and we are not going to focus on that we will read a bit of these things but we will really focus on that in just a few weeks. But he first focuses there in verse 23 on the husband, after saying, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” He then says, “For the husband is head of the wife…” Why? Why in the world is the husband head and why is the wife not head? Well, we not only see it implied here but we again can go to places such as 1Corinthians 11 and we can see the idea presented even in relationship to a man coming before God to worship or a woman coming before God to worship that God is the head of man and the man is head of what? The woman. Why? Because man was made first. I always think that if God had made woman first then certainly man would be under woman but the distinction is that God made Adam first and gave him dominion and then he made the woman as a help me. Not as one really who was less significant or somehow unimportant, if fact just as important if not more important because of the needs that she was able to fulfill in the role God designed for her as wife, and mother, and procreator, and so on and so forth. But what we see here is God’s design; God, man, and woman. That is how He has always then established His Will from the days of Adam and Eve all the way through the day that we live in even now. So the husband is head of the wife. What is the standard that He sets? He says as Christ is head of the church. Has Christ changed from being head of the Church? That was God’s plan from the very beginning of time and now the standard as Christ is head of the Church is also that the husband is head of the wife. So as the wife, verse 21, is submissive to the husband as to the Lord the husband is head of the wife and also the Lord is head of all things. So that’s God’s plan and when we look at that plan oh how beautifully and wonderfully the home works.

Now there are some also responsibilities that are extrinsically seen here as well as implied. Because as Christ is head of the Church it goes on to say that He is the savior of the body. Notice the element that we would see also then with the husband who is head of the home and his need to be what? The savior. What was Christ willing to do? Even die for our sakes that we might be saved. Are husbands willing to die for their wives? What about the protection that God offers His children? What about the willingness to provide the daily needs and sustenance for His children? What about the willingness that God has that not only protects and guides but He is always there in every way in each moment to make sure that we are what we need to be and that we have what we need in this life. You see the husband not only then is made head but to me given a responsibility that is an awesome responsibility and can you imagine letting God down because when we are not proper husbands fulfilling our roles to lead the home as head of the home, then not only do we let our wives down and our families that we will be talking about over the next several weeks but ultimately we let God down. As we count on God to be head of the Church and to do everything that he has promised, we as well should be those who can be counted on as husbands who are over the wives.

He also talks there about the need then that we have as those who are husbands to understand that as the wife is subject to the husband it is the same as the church being subject to Christ. We will talk about that again in few weeks when we get on our discussion concerning wives. But now I want you to notice with me what it says about the husband in verse 25, “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church.” How much did Christ love the church? In every way to the extent of even death. How much do husbands love their wives? They must love them to that extent. Notice also in verse 28 He again says, “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies.” Because it says who hates his own flesh? Love our wives as if we are one because there in verse 31 because we are one, we are one in the flesh with our wives. Then finally in verse 33 I want you to notice again, “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself.” One of the things that I have always loved about the text here in relationship to the duty of a husband is not only the responsibility he has but three times Paul by the Holy Spirit says love your wives, love your wives, love your wives and not one time does he say wives love your husbands. He says submit, now why would a wife submit? She would submit because the husband firsts sets the example in love. What does love do? Read 1Corinthians 13, love does all things, love believes all things, love provides, love is everything. So if the husband is first the one who loves the wife and cares for her, and protects her, and provides for her, and does whatever it takes to make sure she is safe, and to give her a good life, and to give her the things she desires and wants if he does that what great love. No wonder the wife then is willing to submit. The same way we submit to God because He first loved us. Not in word but Christ loved us in deed and He proved it again with that ultimate sacrifice.

There is another aspect of the text here that I also believe is so beautiful. There you might notice with me what it says that Jesus thinks about the Church. It is talking about husbands loving their wives in comparison again but what does Christ think about the church? Read with me verse 26, “That he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy without blemish. How is the husband supposed to present the wife? The same way Christ presents His church. Notice some of those beautiful thoughts as something glorious, as something without spot, as something beautiful. Aren’t wives beautiful? Don’t we love to see them as they put on the clothing, and don’t we want them to have proper clothing to look nice, and don’t we want them to be able to make themselves nice, and to fix their hair? What a beautiful thing. Christ says as he’s proud of the Church as the Church is a glory to Him as it is striving to be perfect, and wondrous, and beautiful, and glorious. As it is something that He cherishes, and something that He nourishes, and cares for we as husbands do the same for our wives.

So who has the bigger responsibility? Would you say wives have the bigger responsibility or husbands? Because the husband brethren and friends set the tone in the entire home. You find a home with a bad husband and I’ll show you a home that doesn’t function. You find a home with a bad father and I will show you a home with that which does not function. And you show me a home where a man is not doing what God commands and I will show you that He is not of God. But you show me a man who loves his wife and truly shows her that, who loves his children, and who does what God commands and I’ll show you a home of God. A home that by president is accomplishing those things that give glory and honor to God, a home that will be rewarded by God not only now but eternally. That is the home that God wants of each and every one of us. So as a man myself, as a husband myself, I challenge all of us to be better husbands. To love, love, love our wives more and to show them just how much we care. As we are willing to do anything and everything to show them love as Christ loved the Church even if it be to death that we might not only have life now together but life together forevermore.

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CLOSING COMMENTS

What a wondrous time we have had together in participating in the things of God. I hope we all have been encouraged through our time spent together. Please remember, you are invited to join us every Sunday morning at 7:30, as we commit ourselves to this service of God.

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Thanks be to God for the pattern which He gives us that we might be proper husbands and fathers. May we always do things in His Way and according to His Will that we might be found pleasing in His sight.

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