THE LIVING WORD TRANSCRIPT

Program Air Date - 3-31-02

LESSON TITLE: THE CHRISTIAN HOME: "WHERE DOES LOVE FIT IN?"

WELCOME

We are excited to have you with us today for the Living Word Program. What a glorious Lord's Day morning it is.

As always it is an honor and privilege to have you with us. We are thankful you have chosen to join us as we commit this time to the things of God. It is our hope and prayer this morning that we may each participate and do our part to make this time acceptable before Him and according to His Word. Now let's begin by talking to God through prayer!
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Let me take just a minute to tell you that in just two weeks we will be having another taping of songs, for use on the Living Word Program. We invite you to be a part of this time of service to God.

This taping will again be held at our building, which is located at 2540 North Kansas Expressway. The taping will start at 2:00 p.m. and will end at 4:00 p.m.. After the taping there will be an abbreviated worship service for those who are unable to make it back to their home congregations in time. We hope you will make plans now to be a part of this important event.

Now it's time to join in our first song of the morning. Won't you do your part as we together sing, "When Upon Life's Billows."
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DEVOTIONAL THOUGHTS

What brings you joy in this life? What really makes you happy? Obviously, we all find joy in the things of this life that we can acquire or buy. However, after we have bought most of the things we want, they only leave us wanting more or wanting something better. This is really not true happiness. I'm asking you about those things which bring you real happiness and joy. Those things which make you feel as if you have really accomplished something and made a difference. The things you do that make your life worthwhile, leaving you with a sense of fulfillment.

What brings you this kind of joy? How about that newborn baby or watching your child as they grow up and mature into an adult. Being a part of making that child, who they are and what they will be.

Maybe it is being a better person and acting more like Christ, even in a world that really practices just the opposite. Some of us find joy in studying and growing in God's Word, so that we can be more pleasing to our creator. What about this type of joy, do you have it?

It's not always easy to find joy in this world in which we live. It seems that there are problems and pressures on every side. When we look around we see unemployment, sickness, suicides and death. Throughout the world we hear of suffering due to people fighting and wars among those who can't seem to get along. All of it is sometimes enough to really get us down.

So, let me ask you again, what really brings you joy in this life? Have you thought of some things yet? Now let me ask you, why does it matter? It matters because God wants us to be a joyous and happy people. In 1 John 1:4, we read, "and these things we write to you that your joy may be full." John had been writing words of encouragement so that the followers of God could be happy! God truly wants us to be happy. So, what does joy mean? It is the emotion excited by the expectations of good. One writer said it is the serenity of the soul that comes from having made peace with God. In the Bible we often read of the joy, gladness and delight of those, in the service of their lord. As God's children today we must know and have the true Joy that is only found in Jesus Christ! Won't you let the world see it in you?

Today we have a special guest speaker with us, who recently held a meeting for us at the Kansas Expressway Church of Christ. His name is Waymon Swain and he is the minister for a congregation of the Lord's people down in Bastrop, LA. He is an excellent speaker and we feel honored to have him with us this morning.

Brother Swain will lead us in our study from God's Word, as he deals with the question, "Where Does Love Fit In ?" This is our next lesson in our series on "The Christian Home." So, please continue with us this morning and in a few minutes Brother Waymon will return with this study from God's Word. Now let's join in our second song of the day. The name of the hymn is, "Blest Be The Tie That Binds."
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LESSON

Speaker: Waymon Swain

Good morning. We're delighted to be with you today as we engage in another lesson from the Word of God. We are glad that you have joined us and hope that you will consider the things that we say as revealed from God's Word about the Christian home. Anyone who says that our homes today throughout the world are not in trouble are uniformed about all of the activities of the home. We believe that in the beginning God created man and placed him in a home and intended that man be happy and prosperous as he lives through this life in the home. Of course the Christian home is something that we need to consider because this involves people being Christians and obeying God's word and living the Christian life as they grow up in our homes.

In the beginning, God created man and created all things and He looked at it and He said everything was good except that man did not have a helpmeet for him. That is, a help that is suitable for him that would help him as he lived through his life. Because of this, He caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and He took from his side a rib and created woman. He brought her to Adam and told him that she would be his helpmeet. From that time on, God created the home.

As we look through the Bible and study it, we know there are three divine institutions. One is the home. God originated the home in the very beginning and it is the oldest of these institutions that God instituted. Number two is civil government or civil law. Because of this and by this, we are regulated by the laws that God set up. And the other of these three is the church. They are all divine institutions. And they are institutions that God set up and I am using the word "divine" in that sense that they originated with God. They are God ordained. As we live in the world, we are affected by all of these. Two of these are of a physical nature and the other is a spiritual nature, the church of our Lord. Now in these three divine institutions, we can find that all of man's needs are fulfilled, created by our Heavenly Father. Each one of them has a purpose and each person must function in these if they are going to be pleasing and acceptable to God.

As we study about the home then, it is important that we learn some of the things that God would have us to do and to be for our homes to be acceptable and pleasing in His sight. In the very beginning of time, in Genesis 2 and verse 24, there God said, "A man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife and they two shall become one."

In Matthew the 19th chapter, Jesus dealing with the subject of marriage, repeated this verse in Matthew 19 and in verse 5 where He said, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh."

Now God instituted marriage so that man could be happy, but there are certain principles that need to exist in order for us to find a happiness and to do what God would have us to do and one of these things would be how there must be love in the family by all that is involved in it: the husband, the wife, and the children. All that are living in the home must find this and love is something that needs to be taught and recognized and practiced if we intend to live for God as we should live.

I want you to notice in this passage that God said in Genesis 2:24 when He said, "a man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife." Sometimes there are passages that are given not for the people of the day, such as this one, because Adam did not have a father. He did not have a mother. That is a physical father and a physical mother. But this passage was given for people to follow because this is a principle that God set forth. Now if he is a child in a home and has a father and mother, he is under the responsibility of the father and mother in that home. But sooner or later, he grows up and he marries and he goes out and starts a home of his own. At that time, he is to leave his father and mother and he is to cleave to his wife and make their home.

Now what we bring to this home as individuals, as a husband or a wife, will determine a great deal as to whether we are going to be happy. If a person gets married out of obligation without love, that home is not going to be very happy and it will not be what God intended for it to be. If a man brings to that marriage, a very loving, kind and caring disposition, he cares for his wife, he cares for the home and loves as he should, as the Bible teaches us we should, most likely that is going to help to make this a very happy and prosperous home. If a woman then leaves her father and mother and comes to this home or this marriage and she brings certain things with her that are going to prove that she loves and she cares and she is working for that end to make it a very prosperous and happy home, most likely a combination of this kind and then you're going to find a Christian home and a home that is going to be pleasing to God and profitable to all people who are involved in it.

So what we need to do today, Number one, is to go back and study what God requires of the home and then let us try to become what God would have us to be. Many of our homes today are in trouble because of the lack of love that we express to each other in our homes. Many a person has fallen out of love, as they say, and has caused a divorce in the family. We need to work at this everyday and do all that we can to learn those principles that are taught in the Bible that God taught that we must have, and then demonstrate them in our lives day by day as we pursue this life and living the Christian life.

One of the things that we ought to do is consider that we become children of God. When you become children of God, you're taught the principles of Christianity. Not only that, but you are taught the principles that make our homes great. And we practice these day by day and we consider each other as we live through life. But when we leave these principles and decide we'll do what we want to do and not be considerate of those principles that God set, often our homes get into trouble. As you look around you today, you can see that there are many a homes that are not what they ought to be, not because they cannot be, but because they have chosen to leave and not accept and not practice those principles that are taught in the Bible.

I believe the Bible teaches there is a way of conduct. There is a way to live, a standard to live by in every aspect of our lives. If we're going to become a Christian, the Bible tells us what we need to do. You can study the Bible and learn that you need to hear, believe, repent, confess and be baptized for the remission of sins. That's what the Bible says. These are standards or principles or commands that are taught for us to become a Christian.

The same thing is true in us living in the Christian home. Let us look at some of the things for just a moment that would enable us to live better and to be better in the eyes of God.

Let's look at the husband for just a moment. I believe in the beginning that God created man first and placed him over the home and he has the responsibility of making that home into something great. He has the responsibility of being head of the home and God is going to hold him accountable for that particular action. But if a man comes along and says, "I don't want that responsibility. I'm not going to act in that aspect of my life. I'm not excited about that." Therefore he neglects his duty there and God is going to hold him accountable. But if a man will learn those principles that makes the home great and what makes it work and what causes it to be the kind of a home that God would have it to be and shoulders that responsibility, then that home is going to be much better as the results of his attitude toward that.

Well, what are some of the things that he needs to do? Paul said in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it." Now here is a command. In this passage in particular, Paul is not dealing with a husband and wife, but he is dealing about the church. But he's using the love of the husband toward the wife as Christ loved the church. What kind of love do you suppose that Christ had for His church? Now we understand that the church is the bride of Christ and when we become members of the church we are married to the Lord and as we are married to the Lord, we become part of this family. Now the Bible here gives us this command, "Husband, love your wife as Christ loved the church." How much did He love the church? Well the Bible teaches us that He gave Himself up to die on the cross for the church. "He purchased the church with His own blood," Acts 20 and verse 28. Now then He comes along and if you want to have a happy relationship that is going to be prosperous and good and have a Christian home, there must be love in that home demonstrated by the husband. It begins with this action of loving our wives as Christ loved the church. It is sad today that there are many people that do not practice this particular part of the marriage responsibility and there are many people that don't love as they should and they don't care and they will not work toward making a happy home. But if we're going to have a Christian home, we're going to have to be Christians ourselves. And we are going to have to practice those things that will work out for good, for us and our families. And this is a direct command of Paul telling husbands to love their wives. But he also gives us another aspect to love it as Christ loved the church. That we would give our lives in service and responsibility and all of these actions to promote love in our homes, that this ought to be the kind of home where children can grow up and learn these responsibilities. They can be taught these responsibilities that they too might grow up and be productive citizens in the kingdom of God as the result of how they have been taught in living in the home that we make.

Not only does the Bible teach that a husband is to love his wife, but the Bible also teaches that a wife is to love her husband and to respect him. And when either one of these fail, then often the marriage will fail. This is not something that we just start off with and let it grow cold and indifferent as years come and go. There is nothing that is more beautiful than to see a couple that are joined together in marriage that love each other and as the years go by, they grow closer to God as the results of their study of His Word and living the Christian and they grow to each other to the point that they respect and love and care until death do we part. So the Bible teaches us that the husband has a responsibility and so does the wife have a responsibility that they will love each other and out of this marriage where this love exists then children are born into the world. And one of the first things that we are to teach our children is that we love them. A child should not grow up in a home not knowing that they are loved. And as we begin to teach our children this and they grow up practicing this kind of love, then they are most likely going to marry into the same kind of family and it will go on and on and on. But where they do not know they are loved and they are not taught to love the parents and respect them and to love each other, they're going to come up and they are not going to be very productive to society. So we need to try to do all that we can as we live here to try our best to teach our children the responsibility of the home and the responsibility of loving God and caring for Him.

I heard a story of a young boy that grew up in a home and he said that he was growing up in a home and he didn't know that he was really loved and his mother and daddy would fight all the time and one night he was sent to bed without anything to eat. He said at about 2:00 he was hungry and he got up and found him an old ear of corn and was sitting by the fireplace eating this corn. The mother heard him and went down and saw him and felt sorry for him and she reached over and she put her arm around him. He made the statement after, he said, "All of my life, I knew I was a child. But that's the first time I realized I was somebody's child." Every child that is born in a home, it ought to be this intent. Raise that child in the way that he is loved. Raise that child in the way that he is going to be productive and make our homes the kind of home that God would have it to be. It cannot be the kind of home that God would have it to be unless this home that have that the principles in it are involved in Christian activities. That is, we need to go to services of the church, get involved in the church, live the Christian life, never do anything that would bring shame and reproach upon our families and also upon the family of God.

I hope this morning in our study together I have said some things that will encourage you to make your home a Christian home, make your home a better home and you can do that by living and obeying these principles that are found in the Bible. God has given us all the information we need so that we can use these principles to make us to be what we ought to be.

It's been good being with you today. Our time is gone. Until next time, we bid you a most pleasant good day.

(SONG # 3 - "Burdens Are Lifted At Calvary!")

CLOSING COMMENTS

Again, let me thank you for choosing to be with us this morning. I hope we all have been encouraged through our time spent together. Please remember, you are invited to join us every Sunday morning at 7:30, as we commit ourselves to this service of God.

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May we each realize the true importance of love in the Christian Home, because no home is proper or complete without it!
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