THE LIVING WORD TRANSCRIPT
Program Air Date - 4-28-02
LESSON TITLE: THE CHRISTIAN HOME: "DUTIES OF CHRISTIAN WIVES"
We are excited to have you with us today for the Living Word Program. What a glorious Lord's Day morning it is.
As always it is an honor and privilege to have you with us. We are thankful you have chosen to join us as we commit this time to the things of God.
It is our hope and prayer this morning that we may each participate and do our part to make this time acceptable before Him and according to His Word. Now let's begin by talking to God through prayer!
When we consider the great sacrifice which Jesus made on the cross for each and every one of us, we are reminded of what God has done for us. This morning, we want to begin with a song that reminds us of our part to God, as we return His love by doing all we can to live for Him. Won't you do your part as we sing together, "I am Thine O Lord."
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When was the last time you started feeling your face warm up, turning red from the heat? Maybe your hands began to sweat or shake from emotion! We've all been there and done that. What are we talking about? Getting mad!
Some of us even this morning have already been angry about something. Did your alarm clock go off too early? Maybe you spilled something while making breakfast? Did that coffee get on your clean shirt you just put on? "When will that paper man ever learn, he'll never get it where I want it!"
It doesn't take much does it? We seem to get upset over the most insignificant things. When will we ever learn? This is not what God wants.
We see two kinds of anger spoken about in the Bible! One is a Godly anger. It is not wrong to get upset about something as long as we control our anger! How can we prove this, let's look into God's word.
In Exodus 4:14, we read, "so the anger of the Lord was kindled against Moses...." Even God gets angry, so we can not say that all anger is wrong or sinful. God does not sin. Also, in Matthew 21 we see that Jesus himself went into the temple and threw out those who were using it for buying and selling goods. In verse 12 we read, "then Jesus went into the temple of God and drove out all those who bought and sold in the temple, and overturned the tables of the money changers and the seats of those who sold doves." Does this sound like someone who was upset and mad? Did He have a reason to be? Certainly He did!
So you see a controlled Godly anger is acceptable, as long as we remember we are Christians and that we must be like Christ. Some sinful situation may even merit an active anger, just as with Christ. However we must remember that all things must be done in a controlled fashion and for God's glory, not our own.
The other anger which the Bible speaks of is an uncontrolled anger! Paul puts this type of ungodly anger among other sinful things that Christians must put away in Ephesians 4:31.
You see, giving into anger and allowing it to get out of control, allows us to give place to the devil, as we read in Ephesians 4:27. In verse 26, Paul also said, "be angry, and do not sin": do not let the sun go down on your wrath...." I think we are beginning to see the difference between being upset and allowing that anger to turn into wrath. One is a controlled response, the other is not.
Finally, let's keep in mind that an uncontrolled anger leads us into many other sins which are unacceptable to God. When we get mad we may start doing many things that are contrary to God's will. We start to think things and say things we shouldn't. We also might start doing things that we shouldn't, which hurt those around us whom we are supposed to love.
Are you keeping your anger in check when you get upset at someone or a situation? Are you allowing others to see Christ in you? Let's determine today to begin making a greater effort to keep our anger under control as Christ would have us to.
This morning, I will lead our study from God's Word, as we deals with the "Duties of Christian Wives." This is our next lesson in our series on "The Christian Home." So, please continue with us this morning and in a few minutes I will return with this study from God's Word.
Now let's join in our second song of the day. The name of the hymn is, "My Jesus I Love Thee."
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Speaker: Ray Sullins
Thank you for continuing with us this morning and now we have the opportunity to again consider our topic of "The Christian Home," and we will get to in just a moment a specific topic, also. Anyway, I wanted to also thank all of those who came just two weeks ago for the television taping and also wanted to mention in connection with that that it will be several more Sundays before we are able to use those new tapes because of a lot of the editing and as far as putting the words onto the tapes. So anyway, if you'll bear with us we hope within just a few more Sundays to have that as a part of our program so you'll be able to see yourselves on television as well as help to glorify God through singing of praises.
We want to look at the Christian home in relationship to the Christian wife and one of the difficulties sometimes and hardships of being a host of a program is you get the topic that no one else wants and I know that sometimes comes my way because as husbands and even as preachers sometimes we don't like to tell our wives what to do and our wives generally don't like to be told what to do. So this morning, I will try to tackle this topic of looking at the responsibilities and duties of the Christian wife and a little bit about the mother, but we'll deal more with the parent concept in another lesson together.
Anyway, as we look at the wife, we find that really in the beginning as we look at creation that God made the man, back in the book of Genesis, in fact in Genesis chapter 2 and verse 18. We find there that the man was made and also the woman then made out of the rib which was taken from the man and then was brought to the man and he referred to her as woman and actually named her just as he had named all of the other creations of God and he said he called her that because she was taken from man or had come from man. In fact, if you'll notice there that it talks about in Genesis 3 and verse 12 how that he was pleased with the woman that God had made and given to him. So Adam was very happy about this. And actually throughout the Bible we find the continued relationship as a wife and a husband come together leaving their parents to become one flesh in order that they might be husband and wife.
In the book of Ecclesiastes chapter 9 and verse 9, we read there that "we must live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life for that is your portion in life." You see again that we focus on how important our wife is and how much we should love her. Why? Because she is a gift to us as those who are men created on this earth.
I think that Paul helped us a lot with this topic. In fact, in the book of 1 Corinthians chapter 11 if you'll notice with me I think verses 7 through 9 really help to bring this thought across to each of us. In verse 7 he says, "For a man indeed ought to cover his head since he is in the image and glory of God, but the woman is in the glory of man, for man is not from woman but the woman from man, nor was he created for the woman but the woman for the man." And as we go on, it continues to talk about there how that the woman then should be in submission to the man because she was created in his glory and the man being in ultimate submission to God because again he was created in the image of and the glory of God. So again here, we see how precious then that women are to us, that ladies are, that those who are females are as God has given them as a special function in this world according to His plan to be a "helpmeet" as God says in the book of Genesis, "a helpmeet for the man."
Notice also that the wife is considered as being one with her husband. Even Adam said again back in Genesis chapter 3 and verses 23 and 24 that "this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh." You see, Adam understood that the woman was special because she was specifically from him and specifically for him.
As well in Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 31, we see the same type of wording used as it says, "A man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." And on down we find that the two "become one flesh."
Jesus said a similar thing in the book of Matthew chapter 9 where he again referred to the concept that a man and woman become one flesh before God. So again, a woman is not only a gift from God, a gift to this world and a gift to those who are the husbands, but a woman also is one who is truly one with her husband.
Also why Paul would have said in Ephesians chapter 5 that "the husband should love the wife as his own body and cherish her and care for her and nourish her and do all that is necessary to give her what she needs in this life." Why? Because again of her special place in his life.
Another thing that we find again that we'll focus on a bit more at this time is the need for submission. I would first of all suggest and remind all of the ladies that we've had a lesson about the need that men have to submit to God and to also as Paul said in Ephesians 5 to submit to the wife also. "Submitting one to another." Why? Because of love. But here we see even a bit further that in the home, that is that organization that God has entailed, the marriage and the home. We find again that there was to be one head as is spoken of clearly again in the book of Ephesians written to the church at Ephesus. In verse 22, it talks there about "wives submitting themselves to the husband." In verse 23, it says why. Because "the husband is head of the wife." And then in verse 24, again it says that "wives should be subject to the husband just as to Christ" or "as Christ is to the church." And the comparison goes on and on in that verse there and in those verses there in Ephesians 5 talking about the relationship. The husband loves the wife. How? As Christ loved the church. How much did He love the church? He gave Himself for the church. Therefore, the husband must love his wife. Again, the gift, the glorious, precious gift from God that was given at the very beginning of this world. So the husband loves the wife and in return she loves him and respects and honors him and submits to him as the head of the home just as he said there again in verse 23, "as Christ is the head of the church."
You see, Paul understood what God wanted him through the Holy Spirit to understand and to teach to the brethren there at Ephesus. Now sometimes Paul has gotten a bad rap, I might say, because of this and is called a chauvinist or someone who really didn't have his feet on the ground or who didn't know what it was all about. But really, I want to remind you that the things he is talking about here and the references that we're making are those things from the beginning. And there in the comparison to the husband being over the wife, and the wife being in submission, the comparison if you'll notice is just as Christ loved the church and is over the church and that He is head over of the church. Has that changed? Has it changed that Christ is the head of His church or that we are to submit as followers of God to that head who is Christ Jesus that we are His body? That hasn't changed. So why would the other have changed? Well, the fact is, it has not.
Paul also said it to Timothy in 1 Timothy chapter 2 and verse 12 where it says there that "the woman does not have authority over herself, but the husband has authority over her" or that is again "her body." Why again? Because there again the man was made first and then the woman was made as a helpmeet for him. Not because she is a lesser individual. Not because she's unimportant, but because she was made for a specific function, especially in the home, in the family, as a wife, and in spiritual matters. She was placed and made by God just as man was for a very peculiar and special, unique function that the man could not fulfill and vice verse also that the woman could not fulfill the function that God has placed on him as the man.
I want you to look also to the book of Peter because sometimes as we again think that maybe Paul was the only one who dealt with this. Peter also understood the very same concept in 1 Peter. And we want to read from chapter 3 and we'll look there at just a few verses in chapter 3 near the beginning of that chapter. Notice it says in verse 1 that "wives likewise, be submissive to your own husbands that even if some do not obey the word, they without the word may be won by the conduct of their wives." Here again, wives who are even in the faith are married to those who are out of the faith. In other words, husbands who are unbelieving, they must be those who are in submission, who are doing that which is right in connection with what God has said.
Then he goes on to talk about holy women and how that they need to present themselves as even in verse 6, "Sarah was submissive and proper before Abraham." But notice on in verse 7 as he again says, "Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife as the weaker vessel and being heirs together of the grace of light that your prayers might not be hindered." Here we see that again husbands are to love their wives and honor and respect them and care for them. And then you see it is the response of the wife to love and to submit and honor and do all those things toward her husband because of what God has asked. But one thing I wanted to bring out here again particularly is the fact again that he mentions them to "be heirs together of the grace of light." Notice that the husband will not receive the greater reward and neither will the wife. They are equal before God in their works and in what they do and in how they achieve those works and pleasing before Him, but ultimately the works are different. Again, in connection to the home, the family, that of being a wife and also in connection to those spiritual matters that God has placed over all.
Yes, the wife is her own person. She is one who must be heard and listened to and loved just as our own body and when we make decisions, we need to include our wives and they should be a part of those decisions and be in on making those decisions. Why? Because we would want our own body to be a part of such things and we want to include our wives in everything just as the Lord, our God, includes us in His church and asks us to do what we should according to His will. Why do we do what God says? We do it because He first has loved us and showed us the honor and respect to give us His Word and to ask us to be obedient to it.
Husbands also must understand, I think, finally that wives are their best friends. They should be their confidant in all things. They should be that individual that they turn to for love and also in their life even as a lover. As we think about wives then again, we find that they are so precious to us and they fulfill functions that no one else can fulfill in this life, that even a best friend can not fulfill because they are truly that gift, that best friend, that confidant from God whom we can confide in all things, who is there for us in all things and who will care for us and provide for us in all things just as God has said.
What type of relationship do you have with your wife? One that should be precious in all things, one that should ultimately bring her up and not tear her down.
I want you to look with me at what is said there in the book of Proverbs 31 as a great, virtuous woman is talked about. And there Solomon, the greatest man who ever lived, said the following beginning in verse 10 of chapter 31. "Who can find a virtuous wife? Her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her so that he will not lack of gain. She does good to him and not evil all of the days of her life and she seeks wool and flax and willingly works with her hands. She is like the merchant ship. She brings food from afar and also raises her up yet while it is night to provide food for all her household and a portion to her maid servants. She considers a field and buys it from their profits and plants a vineyard. And she girds herself with strength and strengthens her arms and she perceives that the merchandise is good and her lamp does not go out by day and by night. And she stretches out her hands to the distraught and she holds to the spindle and she extends her hand to the poor and she reaches out her hands to the needy and with her scarlet robe, she also is one who with her household makes those things that are needed. And she makes tapestries for herself and clothing of fine linen and purple. Her husband is known by the gates and by the elders of the land. And she makes linens and garments and sells them and supplies sashes for the merchants. And strength and honor are her clothing and she shall rejoice until she comes again. And from her mouth, there is wisdom, and her tongue, the law of kindness. And as she watches over the household, and does not eat the bread of idleness and raises her children up as blessed and her husband also calls her blessed."
You see, a woman who is so special as a wife, a mother, a friend, a confidant, one who gives all things and is special. Husbands, do we understand that? Men of God, do we understand what we have and what we have been blessed with in the fact that we've been given such a wondrous helpmeet by our God, one that is there in all things and can help us in all things and can help us in providing all things. And if we treat her as we should and respect her and honor her and love her, what else should we expect in return but the very same? And that she again will submit to those things that she needs to and fulfill her functions just as we do in the family of God, the Christian home.
I hope and pray that each of us will find what God has asked us to do as wives and parents, as husbands, as children, and as we continue to look at this series that we find out exactly what God wants and that we read His Word so that we know what He wants and then when we see what He wants and understand it, that we apply it in our lives to make us the best people that we can be as we fulfill those duties that He has given to us from His Word.
(SONG # 3 - "Living By Faith!")
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